Archive | April 2012

Working Moms: In and Out of the Home

So much hoopla was made about the remarks by Hilary Rosen when she said Mrs. Romney had “never worked a day in her life”. Everybody began to chime in saying there is “no tougher job than being a mom”, I truly believe that being a mother myself. But I don’t think Hilary Rosen was trying to say that being a mother was not a tough job. I think what she was saying is that Mrs. Romney had a choice, options. Every woman does not have the option to stay home and take care of their children full time. Notice I used the word option, let’s check the definition; first one is the ability to choose and the second one means alternative. Ms. Rosen was talking about the single mothers and wives in households that need a dual income. She was speaking to Mrs. Romney’s lack of ability to relate to the financial struggles of mothers that have to work outside of the home full time.
Every woman is not as fortunate as Mrs. Romney and don’t have the choice to have a career as a stay at home mom. How can she really identify with women who have to work? Women who work outside of the home have it doubly hard, they do everything Mrs. Romney did in the home plus worked a full time job outside the home. What is your opinion on this issue?


Support Business Women and Moms

I recently read an article on called “Proud to Be a ‘Mompreneur'”, by Jill Salzman. In the article it spoke about how she was a mother and ran a business called ‘The Founding Moms’ which is the first and only kid-friendly meeting for momprenuers. She also coined the phrase herself, but it seems others don’t exactly embrace this term. It shocked me to to find out that even other women business owners felt this word was derogatory and demeaning. A writer named Lindsay Cross of the Grindstone wrote a blog post called “I Hate Mompreneurs But I Support Women in Business”. She felt when the word “mompreneur” was used to describe a business owner, it told everyone that women have other priorities.
The author of the article noted that in the age of the internet when people constantly reveal their habits and what they do, why must a mom keep her kids a secret? She also noted when she was asked to speak at business associations,conferences or conventions she is told not to bring up the ‘mom’ aspect of what she does. It is amazing that this women has 2,500 members in Founding Moms in over 30 countries around the world and she still can’t be taken seriously because she works with moms. What do you think? Why do you think other business women feel this way?

‘Spinster’ Stigma: Alive and Well in 2012

I recently read an article on the MSNBC website titled “Single women still feel ‘spinster’ stigma”. The article noted that even though more and more women are staying single or waiting longer to get married, a survey showed stigma against ‘Spinster’ is still the same. The researchers interviewed 32 middle class never before married women over 30 and found they felt as if their status made them both visible and invisible.
The article went on to say that the visibility came from exposure and the invisibility came from the assumptions of others. Most of them felt the need to explain or justify being single. The most surprising thing I found was that these women felt insecure and displaced in their families when parents and siblings remark about their singleness and made jokes or rude comments.
It is so sad to see that not only does society put this kind of pressure on women but we as women ostracize and ridicule one another for being unmarried. When did women become defined or made relevant only when they are married? Why do we have a negative connotation attached to being a single woman but not when men are single? What do you think?