Congress will soon be going on a break in August and the House of Representatives are deciding which bills they will pass before they leave. One of the bills up for reauthorization is the “Violence Against Women Act”, the landmark 1994 law that strengthened the nation’s efforts against domestic violence, sexual assaults and stalking. In May, fifteen Republican Senators joined with Democratic Senators to approve a strong reauthorization bill. Instead of supporting their Senators hard work the House Republicans pushed to pass their own watered down version, ignoring President Obama’s veto threat. Unless change happens, the Republicans will be responsible for blocking the renewal of a popular lifesaving bill.
Ladies, I think it is time we vote for the issues that affect women and not a person or a party. Whether you are Democrat or Republican, we have to show these politicians that if they want our vote they need to take women’s issues very seriously. The negotiations on the final bill are in limbo and it is time to speak out. I say if these candidates and politicians want my vote, this is surely not the way to do it. As we go into the fall campaign season with elections just around the corner, does it seem like these politicians value our vote? Do they want our vote or does it seem like we are a low priority on their list of agendas? Let’s let them know what we think by raising our voices and voting the issues at the polls.
When it comes to divorce a lot can be learned from Katie Holmes. Most women who get divorced are usually the David against the Goliath (husband) and usually don’t come out ahead. In the case of Katie Holmes and Tom Cruise, David wins again. Not only did she catch Tom by surprise (maybe?), she seemed to get everything she wanted in the end and quickly. The key to Katie’s success was the one thing most women seeking divorce don’t do – PLAN.
That is correct, plan. She was able to put things in order before filing for divorce. She knew that Tom Cruise had way more money than she had at his disposal and this could afford him the upper hand in a divorce. Sounds familiar? The average woman in a marriage doesn’t make half as much as their husband’s which usually puts them at a disadvantage when filing for a divorce if they don’t plan well. Women today could learn a lot from Katie Holmes, she changed her cell phone, got a new apartment, consulted a lawyer, got a new bodyguard, etc.
She did it in a way that he would not become suspicious. She told him she needed the apartment for security reasons, change her cell phone to disconnect herself from his friends, got a new bodyguard so the new one would have allegiance to her only. This was brilliant planning for women whose life is constantly in the spotlight. I totally applaud Katie Holmes not just for what she did for herself and her child but she now has left a blueprint for other women to follow.
So ladies, if you think you can get a fair divorce settlement from a powerful, controlling husband – think again. Think Katie Holmes.