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Why Does Feminism Have to Be a Dirty Word?

The third article I read in The New York Times was by LaShaun Williams, a columnist and blogger who writes about parenting and culture.  The name of her article is “Good Riddance to Feminism!”  In her article she spoke to women being unable to be powerful professional women and good mothers too.  She believes women cannot have both and that is why working mothers have feelings of guilt and inadequacy.  She also believes the “feminism movement” is responsible for encouraging women to follow their dreams, devalue marriage and family, causing them to choose self-indulgence.  She also stated she didn’t think all working mothers were bad mothers but the feminist climate pressures women to work.  LaShaun stated, “the damage that attachment parenting is doing to feminism is a good thing.  “Her stand is that when we as women bring children into the world we should sacrifice parts of ourselves”.  She also feels parts of feminism deserve to be re-examined because it has marred some of what it means to be a woman.  She says she is not saying attachment parenting is the best method or demonizing working moms, but she just wants to highlight its support of being a strong presence in a child’s life.  Do you think working moms have forgotten that family comes first?  Do you think that being a working mom is about a career or monetary necessity?

Working Mom and Still Attached

The second article I read in The New York Times was by Heather McDonald, a stand-up comedian, a series regular on “After Lately”, a writer and producer for “Chelsea Lately” and   author of “You’ll Never Blue Ball in This Town Again”.  The name of her article is “Working Moms Are Right to Be Realistic”.  In her article she talks about attachment parenting and working mothers.  Heather started by admitting that she never breastfed either of her two sons and two months after her oldest son was born she had an opportunity to work on a film.  She felt she would have turned them down if she had been breastfeeding.  She also said the bonus of using formula was that her husband did every 5 a.m. feeding for both boys.  I like her statement, “being a mother is part of who you are, but should not be all of who you are”.  She stated there is no parenting secret that ensures that your child will grow up and be a successful adult.  In the article she also made this amazing statement, “No, I did not breastfeed, make organic baby food or co-sleep with my children.  I instead slept with their father and am still happily married to him today.  Plus, believe it or not, neither of my formula-fed sons have ever had a fever, an earache or even been on antibiotics”.  She also mentioned her oldest son is the tallest on his baseball team and when asked by the other team’s mom what she was feeding him, she proudly said: “Cow’s milk and animal meat bought from a regular grocery store”.  What do you think, can you be a working mom and attached?  Would you give up breastfeeding your baby to see your spouse bottle feed and create a bond with his baby?

Attachment Parenting – What is it?

The first article I read in The New York Times was by Mayim Bialik, an actress who is currently starring in the sitcom “The Big Bang Theory” and the author of “Beyond the Sling”.  She also has a Ph.D. in neuroscience. The name of her article is “Attachment Parenting is Feminism”.  In her article she defined what attachment parenting is, “an umbrella term” coined by pediatrician William Sears.  He described it as a style of parenting that embraces the normal biology of pregnancy, labor, breastfeeding and bonding that ensure raising children who demonstrate the psychological classification of being securely attached.  Mayim stated that by definition this type of parenting is not perfect but instead seeks to educate women and families about natural, organic and normal ways our bodies were made and how to maximize the potential for securely attached children.  The harmony exists for children with parents who are not afraid to be imperfect.

She states mothers who practice attached parenting are concerned about what hormonal contraceptives do to your body and your brain.  Why doctors prescribe birth control to teenagers and adults who don’t have “regular” menstrual cycles.  Along with the intervention of Pitocin during labor, the belief that breast milk is biologically and nutritionally superior to formula and that sleeping next to your baby releases positive hormones that facilitates bonding. At the end Mayim asked the question, now tell me how attachment parenting is inconsistent with feminism?  How would you answer this question?