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The Deadly Pacifier

I read an article in USA Today (6/05/12) by Bethany Matta called “Afghan women, children held in addiction’s grip”.  This story was truly alarming to me.  She interviewed a woman named Zarghoona from an impoverished Turkmen Village in Afghanistan, a 37 year old mother of five sons and three daughters.  One of her daughters died.  In a country where one in ten children die before age five, often because of preventable illnesses like respitory infection but her daughter died from an overdose of opium.  She told the reporter she fed her daughter a lot of drugs at one time.  It killed her and she did not have money to take her to a hospital.

These women work in the carpet-weaving center in Qali a Zal district and they all are carpet weavers.  The women work from early morning to late in the evening, and keeping the children quiet is necessary for the women to work undisturbed.  The women reach inside their clothing and pull out plastic packets containing raw opium.  They unfold the plastic, roll the sticky opium into a ball and place it in the children’s mouths.  A doctor, Dr. Rahmatuliah who heads the local government council said “when babies are born, on the first day, they (women) grease their navels with fluid of opium, so that the baby does not cry and sleeps well”.  After a few months they begin to give opium to the babies orally.

For those who are hooked, there is little help – there are no clinics for addicts.  As a mother of two children I could never imagine giving opium to my children or any addictive drug.  Where is the world’s outcry for this behavior?  Where is the help for these women and children?  I heard references to mother’s being mentioned throughout this article, what say the father’s?  What do you think about this practice and the lack of accountability of the father’s?

Women weaving rugs with their children


Attachment Parenting – What is it?

The first article I read in The New York Times was by Mayim Bialik, an actress who is currently starring in the sitcom “The Big Bang Theory” and the author of “Beyond the Sling”.  She also has a Ph.D. in neuroscience. The name of her article is “Attachment Parenting is Feminism”.  In her article she defined what attachment parenting is, “an umbrella term” coined by pediatrician William Sears.  He described it as a style of parenting that embraces the normal biology of pregnancy, labor, breastfeeding and bonding that ensure raising children who demonstrate the psychological classification of being securely attached.  Mayim stated that by definition this type of parenting is not perfect but instead seeks to educate women and families about natural, organic and normal ways our bodies were made and how to maximize the potential for securely attached children.  The harmony exists for children with parents who are not afraid to be imperfect.

She states mothers who practice attached parenting are concerned about what hormonal contraceptives do to your body and your brain.  Why doctors prescribe birth control to teenagers and adults who don’t have “regular” menstrual cycles.  Along with the intervention of Pitocin during labor, the belief that breast milk is biologically and nutritionally superior to formula and that sleeping next to your baby releases positive hormones that facilitates bonding. At the end Mayim asked the question, now tell me how attachment parenting is inconsistent with feminism?  How would you answer this question?