Tag Archive | leadership

Who’s the Real Imposter, Men or Women?

I believe some women shy away from leadership roles because they want to be true leaders; this is because sometimes in their day to day work lives they see male counterpart not exhibiting true leadership. What they see are authority figures and watch as co-workers “follow” these so called “leaders” by doing exactly what they are told to do. No one is truly following. It was said that women sometime feel like imposters, waiting to be found out. As a black woman in Corporate America I never felt like an imposter or fearful of being found out. But I think my male counterparts and superiors felt like imposters, not wanting to be found out.
It seems to me they don’t want to lead, they just want the authority to be able to control. Most of them had personal agendas and were only looking out for themselves. In doing this they don’t want real leadership to be shown, so they try and change women to lead by their definition or keep them out altogether. A woman showing real leadership is a threat to male supremacy and authority. I think Corporate America has lost touch with the true meaning of leadership. Maybe the men are keeping women out of leadership roles so they won’t be found out, showing them to be the real imposters. If women in these roles show true leadership then the men will be seen for who they really are. In Corporate America, are men leaders or authority figures? What do you think?

Coffee Talk – A True Mentoring Experience

On Friday I had the pleasure of attending a special event at the TD Convention Center in Greenville South Carolina.  It was the first annual “Coffee Talk – A Mentoring Experience for Women”.  As the women arrived we began to register at 8:00 am and helped ourselves to coffee which was supplied by Starbucks.  The event started promptly at 8:30 am with Teri Parker, a professional actress, writer and acting teacher who welcomed us and introduced the first speaker.  Our speaker for the morning was Amy Herman.  Amy designed, developed and conducts sessions called “The Art of Perception” using the analysis of works of art to improve perception and communication skills.

She conducts this program across the country and has adapted these sessions for law enforcement, leaders in industry, education and finance.  She has worked with the New York City Police Department, the Federal Bureau of Investigation and the Department of Homeland Security, as well as hospitals, medical schools and nurses.  Amy is also the head of education at The Frick Collection in New York City for eleven years.   She said her Art of Perception sessions should make us rethink how we see and never be afraid to raise questions.  We were told to never be afraid to talk to people about what we are doing and to find our passion – find what we love to do.

After Amy spoke we began our first mentoring session where two at a time mentors rotated from table to table to engage the women in conversations that really matter and ask questions that challenged our thinking.  The first two mentors at my table was Lori Coon, the Chief Operating Officer of Integrated Media Publishing and Edna K. Morris, Chief Executive Officer / Partner of Range Restaurant Group.  We asked them questions about how they began their careers and what advice they could give us as we moved forward in our careers.  These women are bright, insightful and overflowing with rich experiences that we all seemed to soak up like sponges.

After our first mentor session we took a Starbucks coffee break for fifteen minutes then continued on to our second mentor session.  The second two mentors that came to our table were Chandra Dillard, Director of Community Relations at Furman University and a State House of Representatives in District 23 and Andrea Meade, Executive Vice President of Operations & Corporate Development at ScanSource, Inc.  They talked to us about the best advice they were ever given.  They said in leadership you should listen more, be a problem solver and balance life and our careers.  Both women cultivated an atmosphere of great discussions between themselves and the women at the table.  When the session was complete we move to the dining room for lunch.

Our speaker for the afternoon was Susan Tardanico.  She is CEO of the Authentic Leadership Alliance which is a leadership communications consultancy that advises, coaches and supports executives at major corporations, nonprofits and entrepreneurial ventures.  She is also executive in Residence at the Center for Creative Leadership, writes for Forbes and Forbes Woman and is a member of the adjunct faculties of Georgetown and New York universities where she runs a graduate leadership programs.  Susan’s speech was titled, “How to step into Our Power”.

She told us all solid relationships begin with a solid relationship with yourself.  We should also leverage our intuition and intellect and change our beliefs about our circumstances.  She said that a lot of women suffer from “Imposter Syndrome”, this is defined as “Despite external evidence of their competence, those with the syndrome remain convinced that they are frauds and do not deserve the success they have achieved”.   She also said we should let go of limiting beliefs and make choices aligned with who you are.  Make allies and create strategic relationships, these are the ones that matter. Most importantly she told us to know that we are worthy, another words, no your own worth.  The event ended at 1:30 pm and most of the mentors stayed around for continued conversation and questions.

This was an excellent experience and I felt rejuvenated and ready to tackle my purpose head on.