The second article I read in The New York Times was by Heather McDonald, a stand-up comedian, a series regular on “After Lately”, a writer and producer for “Chelsea Lately” and author of “You’ll Never Blue Ball in This Town Again”. The name of her article is “Working Moms Are Right to Be Realistic”. In her article she talks about attachment parenting and working mothers. Heather started by admitting that she never breastfed either of her two sons and two months after her oldest son was born she had an opportunity to work on a film. She felt she would have turned them down if she had been breastfeeding. She also said the bonus of using formula was that her husband did every 5 a.m. feeding for both boys. I like her statement, “being a mother is part of who you are, but should not be all of who you are”. She stated there is no parenting secret that ensures that your child will grow up and be a successful adult. In the article she also made this amazing statement, “No, I did not breastfeed, make organic baby food or co-sleep with my children. I instead slept with their father and am still happily married to him today. Plus, believe it or not, neither of my formula-fed sons have ever had a fever, an earache or even been on antibiotics”. She also mentioned her oldest son is the tallest on his baseball team and when asked by the other team’s mom what she was feeding him, she proudly said: “Cow’s milk and animal meat bought from a regular grocery store”. What do you think, can you be a working mom and attached? Would you give up breastfeeding your baby to see your spouse bottle feed and create a bond with his baby?
So much hoopla was made about the remarks by Hilary Rosen when she said Mrs. Romney had “never worked a day in her life”. Everybody began to chime in saying there is “no tougher job than being a mom”, I truly believe that being a mother myself. But I don’t think Hilary Rosen was trying to say that being a mother was not a tough job. I think what she was saying is that Mrs. Romney had a choice, options. Every woman does not have the option to stay home and take care of their children full time. Notice I used the word option, let’s check the definition; first one is the ability to choose and the second one means alternative. Ms. Rosen was talking about the single mothers and wives in households that need a dual income. She was speaking to Mrs. Romney’s lack of ability to relate to the financial struggles of mothers that have to work outside of the home full time.
Every woman is not as fortunate as Mrs. Romney and don’t have the choice to have a career as a stay at home mom. How can she really identify with women who have to work? Women who work outside of the home have it doubly hard, they do everything Mrs. Romney did in the home plus worked a full time job outside the home. What is your opinion on this issue?